This idea that “content” is not important is a significant misunderstanding in NLP.
Of course, content is important and so is structure. This is not an Either-Or choice, but a Both-And choice.
Content is the Story … the details that fill in the specific circumstances and that plays on the theater of the client’s mind as a movie.
Yes, the structure of it is more important in terms of the frames that it sets, but that does not discount the content. Listening to the story non-judgmentally, in fact, is one of the key ways that we create rapport. And interesting enough, often times giving client the room and space to articulate the content it often defuses its power. Here as a coach, we need to be able to handle, accept, and welcome the client’s “emotions” as emotions.
To discount the story because it is “content” can, in fact, be hurtful and cruel! Content becomes a problem when that’s all there is, just Content. Yet in NLP and Neuro-Semantics, we use the Content of the Story to enter the person’s world, and to then begin asking Meta-Questions — what do you think and feel about that? And when you step back from that, what thoughts, memories, beliefs, etc. come to mind?
How do we handle Content in Coaching? Welcome it, honour it, acknowledge it, explore it and once you have rapport move above it, explore and discern the frames above the content, and use the Matrix questions to see how the person’s mind-body-system is ordering and organising that content.
This is a very important question because it enables us to make some very critical distinctions!
NLP is essentially a communication model. It is Developed by a Linguistic and computer programmer, it’s all about the encoding and transfer of information. It was developed by observing the powerful ways Virigina Satir, Frit Perlzz, and Milton Ericsson Communicated. It’s about how we communicate within ourselves using the VAK and words and how we do the same with each other. It came from the now-dead field of Transformational Grammar.
As such NLP focuses on the processes that we can use that follows how V. Satir, F. Perls and M. Erickson worked with clients. For this reason, NLP is full of “human technology”! In fact, in Europe, the patterns are called “technics.” And NLP there is very procedural oriented and full of the things that we do TO people. Even the language of NLP presupposes that the coach does things TO a client, we “run a pattern on a client,” “we use the Swish on a client,” “We run the phobic cure on a client.”
Coaching is the very opposite to this! Coaching operates in a way that reverses this doing TO people because its very nature is to explore WITH a client, facilitate discovery WITH a client, and co-create new plans and processes WITH a client- – and coaching does this by initiating a dialogue.
Here is a significance difference. A NLP practitioner meets a client, gathers a little information and then runs patterns and does things to a client. The practitioner is directive, in charge, and controlling.
A Coaching professional meets a client, gathers lots and lots of information, probing, exploring, questioning, meta-questioning, mirroring, reflecting, asking more questions. And in this process of an engaging conversation, the client establishes his or her agenda, values,
visions, and plan for change. Often — maybe usually— the coach does nothing directly TO the client in terms of running patterns. The coach FACILITATES awareness, insight, emotion, motivation, actualisation of a plan, celebration, and continual refinement through feedback.
An NLP practitioner generally takes responsibility for the success of the session, takes ownership of the processes and patterns, and is the expert in knowing NLP patterns and models. A Coach works from the first moments to release complete ownership of the process to the client … and creates the conversational atmosphere that allows the client to take charge.
Simple and practical!
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